Still no travel call.
We did, however, finally get all of our education requirements completed and turned in!!! I am SO glad it is all done! Such a relief!
Also completed all the required reading! Some things I learned from Lois Ruskai Melina's "Raising Adopted Children":
Adoptive parents are no longer encouraged to use the "chosen baby" story to explain their motives for adopting. This explanation places an enormous burden on the adoptee, giving them an impossible image to live up to. She could be unchosen if she reveals herself to be imperfect.
Researchers are finding that genetics plays an influential role in the development of intelligence, personality, and even vocational interests. Recognizing the limitations of environmental influences can help parents be more unconditionally accepting of the children.
Children may grieve their losses again years later when they gain more understanding. They may be withdrawn, distracted, confused, clingy, or have bouts of sadness or anger. Adoption issues are never completely put to rest. By containing an open atmosphere in which the child feels comfortable discussing his feelings, by validating those feelings, and by providing unconditional support, parents can help her through her period of mourning toward acceptance and understanding.
And also "Attaching in Adoption" by Deborah D. Gray:
Parents must be encouraged to enjoy meeting their child’s early needs for nurture. Doing so is taking a positive step toward ensuring that their child does not become a desperately needy adult later on. The most successful parents are those who use highly nurturing approaches in parenting any children, including those who have had a rough start. Until children are well-attached to their parents, big hugs, lap-sitting, long gazes, and being carried are intimate expressions of love reserved for members of the nuclear family - with the possible exception of grandparents.
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